Did You Do Your Emotional Workout Today?

Did You Do Your Emotional Workout Today?

When I was recently working with a client couple I asked about their ongoing “homework” of sharing “daily gratitudes” with each other. I had suggested this as homework for the past eight months because it quickly became apparent that they were more connected and harmonious when they committed to this brief but intentional activity every day…

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Is There Any Place for Men’s Sexual Energy in the Workplace (Like Andrew Cuomo’s)?

Is There Any Place for Men’s Sexual Energy in the Workplace (Like Andrew Cuomo’s)?

Whoa, this just got uncomfortable, I thought to myself. I was standing and speaking to a group of powerful, primarily white, male business owners, and I had just suggested that they should be responsible and turn off their sexual energy in the workplace. And from their uncomfortable murmurs…

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Take My "Sex & Vulnerability" Survey!

Take My "Sex & Vulnerability" Survey!

I could use your help if you're up for some sexual intimacy reflection?! For the summer of 2021, I launched an anonymous "Sex & Vulnerability" survey with 9 open-ended questions, to read in people's own words what is most vulnerable and real for them around sexual and emotional intimacy!

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Mindful Intimacy Series at Rancho La Puerta

Mindful Intimacy Series at Rancho La Puerta

I had the joy and pleasure of speaking for a week at Rancho La Puerta, a place that I describe as a healthy summer camp for adults who are into fitness, nutrition, relaxation, and connection. A week later I was interviewed by the Program Director at the Ranch, Barry Shingle, about the topics I spoke on at the Ranch the previous week…

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Stop Spewing Your Toxic Positivity

Stop Spewing Your Toxic Positivity

I started this blog almost a year ago, and on March 18, 2020, sent it to a friend for his feedback. I never posted it because I didn’t want to spew my anger online if I wasn’t sure it could be helpful in an already incredibly difficult time period. But yesterday I heard the term “toxic positivity” for the first time…

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Bullsh*t Vulnerability & Authenticity on Social Media & Instagram

Bullsh*t Vulnerability & Authenticity on Social Media & Instagram

Authenticity and vulnerability. We’ve learned that these are good things, yes? According to researcher and author Brene Brown, folks who cultivate these characteristics are able to live happier, more connected, and more satisfying lives. So why am I calling “bullshit” on vulnerability and authenticity right now?

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